Comments on: When Fools Can Be Kings..

By: syar

syar — Wed, 18 Jul 2007 03:29:10 +0000

I’m a drama leech. I am the loudspeaker through which my friends dramas are broadcasted. It’s a role I’m comfortable with. I was in an all-girls high school too, and the dramas I just heard of and wasn’t really a part of was rubbish too. Delicious, juicy rubbish but you’re talking to someone who’s addicted to the E! Entertainment Channel.

And awww.

By: Rose

Rose — Mon, 16 Jul 2007 07:02:35 +0000

Elle – Gah.. you’ve changed! But I sort of agree, but in a less angry teenager sort of way.

Syar – Sounds like brilliant fun though!! At least they sound like interesting dramas, rather than the kind of bitch-slapping rubbish we had at my all-girls high school. I love the fact that you are a dramatic person – I am too! It annoys some people, but life is much more fun when everything is dramatic, I think. In high school I needed to get away from the drama because it was so negative, all the time.

And, I like “you you”!

By: Syar

Syar — Mon, 16 Jul 2007 03:57:30 +0000

I sort of envy you your high school experience. My years pursuing secondary education was ALL drama. We had a play every year except for my third and my fifth and there was drama while we were practicing drama. In my first and second years, the drama was a nice way to while away the dull days and tedium. It was pleasant cause it was superficial and we all got over it fairly easily. As dramatic people, my friends and I have only increased in volume, magnitude, quality and quantity when it comes to personal and public crises. We’re talkers, so every other day we’re talk-talk-talking about an old drama that we’ve built on so caringly like layers of a pearl. When we hit our thirties, we’ll have one mo-effin’ monster of a pearl, excuse my French.

Self improvement (or my favourite term for it – self actualization) is something I’ve been conscious of ever since I read about it in Princess Diaries (sad but true). I never think I’ve achieved whatever self-actualizing goal I’ve set out for myself though, but on my good days, I quite like the person I am so I must not be doing too bad. I hope to never use the words “old me” or “new me”. The day I can say “me me”, I’ll be happy.

P.S : Good job making me envious of you and your man.

By: Elle

Elle — Fri, 13 Jul 2007 13:02:57 +0000

Wow what an essay of a comment. Anyway, I forgot to mention that in relation the the conflict you are embroiled in I will give you this advice:

People aren’t going to respond to you being angry and irrational. God knows I don’t. Rational explanation and discussion without too many emotional over reactions is likely to be more effective than anger, emotional outbursts and snideness.

Be nice, but firm!

And may the force of the holy hot-dog be with you…

By: Elle

Elle — Fri, 13 Jul 2007 13:00:14 +0000

Self improvement isn’t rubbish. It’s the real intentions behind self improvement that can be depending on the person.

Ben and I discuss things like this all the time. If I decide to change anything about myself, the reasons behind it would be purely to live a more “ethical” existence (and yes I am aware there exists no universal set of ethics).My basic idea of my “ethical existence” is: I live life to enjoy it myself, and to contribute positively to and not limit the enjoyment of others.

Anything I do to improve myself to others usually goes along the lines of selflessness, tolerance and respect for my fellow earthlings. I don’t see this as me trying to make myself a more likable person, or trying to be popular etc. because I think those are shitty reasons for self-improvement. These are simply ways in which I can be a selfless person and contribute positively to the lives around me that I affect. Aww.
Things I do to improve myself aesthetically, or in terms of my music, art etc. are purely for my own enjoyment. I enjoy knowing I’m great without needing to be told so . I don’t need other peoples’ approval…I’ve spent most of my life unpopular, why would I start trying now? It’s not the quantity of my friends that is important…it’s the quality.

As I said, self-improvement is not a bullshit concept. But I think that improving yourself purely for the outcome of more friends, popularity, or to simply appear “cool” or attractive is bullshit. People who “improve” themselves for these reasons are usually insecure people who need that kind of approval to feel worthy….or just need a big hug. If you’re going to go about improving yourself, it should be a personal journey, and that journey has to begin with accepting and loving who you are…without other people assuring you of it.

Social climbers are annoying and everyone knows it. Please people, the world needs less assholes.

Oh and Rose…you’ve changed!

-Elle